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I have been with my wife for just over 10 years. We began our relationship on 24.10/1998, and were married on 25/11/2005. I am 48 & she is 31. We have 2 sons aged 9 & 2.
We had, what I believed to be, a fantastic relationship in that time. We hardly ever argued & both loved our sons. The only negatives surrounding our relationship was the fact that her (3 times married) mother, sister & step-brother were against our relationship from the beginning, the reasons being that I was too old, not rich, not a foreigner (she and her family are not foriegn!) & because she became pregnant with our first son early in our relationship. This attitude from them all continued throughout our relationship
Her father & grandmother were both very supportive & accepted me without any issues.
We lived in Victoria, while her mother, sister, step-brother & grandmother live in South Australia, and her father lives in Western Australia.
In the 10 years we had been together her mother contacted her no more than 15 times, her sister contacted her even less & her step-brother contacted her once solely to threaten & abuse me because she was pregnant.
Her father & grand mother contacted us at least once a month over the period we were together.
My wife recently discovered in July 2008 that she was suffering from arthritis in her hips & pelvic bone. This condition meant that she was unable to spread her legs, therefore putting an end to our sex life. This, although disappointing, was not a major worry to me as I was more interested in her physical well-being. Plus I saw masturbation as a replacement for sex.
From the time she was diagnosed with the ailment, she started changing in her attitude saying that she did not feel that she could be a wife to me anymore because she could not do what a wife should be able to do (i.e. have sex with her husband). No matter how many times I told her that it was not a big issue for me, she still had the same attitude.
Her doctor, rather than treating the condition, placed her on anti-depressants & some slow-release painkiller patches. He increased the dosage to the maximum within a period of 5 months. We later discovered that the patches were an addictive narcotic. She changed doctors in December, and he began weaning her off the patches & began organizing pain management & physio treatment for her, and things were looking a lot better for her.
Towards the end of December her mood towards me changed from being loving, to being angry for some reason.
She went to her sisters for a weeks holiday early January, and I went on the bus with her to help her with the 2 yearold, aand to collect our 9 yearold son and bring him back home with me to go camping. He had been on holidays for the week prior. When she arrived at her sisters home, her sister gave her an alcoholic drink & some pipes of cannabis resin. We both used to smoke marijuana, but had not done so for well over a year. Neither of us drink alcohol at home. Her sister also used to supply her with speed before we got together. I have never used it, and have never wanted to use it.
On phone calls made to my wife during her holiday she stated that her sister had friends over every night & that she was getting drunk each night. I presume that she was also smoking marijuana as well, and very possibly taking speed as well.
When she returned home she was in a really rotten mood with me, and did not even give me a kiss or cuddle when she got off the bus.
She stated that she wanted to return to live in South Australia so she could have the support of her mother, sister & step-brother. Her father & grand mother told her that to do that would be a stupid idea & that she would not get the support that she believed that she would.
I told her that I would not move to South Australia (due to my work & the attitude of her mother, sister & brother-in-law towards me), and that I would not allow her to take the children over there to live.
On the 24/1/2009 I arrived home from work to discover that she had left to live in South Australia with the children. She had left a one page letter saying that she loved me, but was not in love with me anymore. I also discovered a used pregnancy testing kit in the rubbish the next day while searching for some missing paperwork of mine. I never found the paperwork & later found out that she had taken it with her.
For the next 5 weeks I had no contact with her or the children despite numerous attempts by myself to contact her via phone & text messages.
I had consulted a solicitor within 2 working days of her leaving, as I was told that she was not allowed to take the children to another state to live without my permission. He applied for, and gained, a court order through the Federal Magistrates Court. This was not able to be served on her as she was unable to be traced, even though the Court had gained her address via a ‘Location Order’ issued to Social Security (she was living with her sister).
The Court then grante
The Court then granted an interim ‘Recovery Order’ which was given to the Australian Federal Police so they could find the children & have them returned to me. This was to be followed by another Court hearing where the judge would then make a decision as to where the children should live. The Order was granted on the 25/2/2009.
So far the Feds have not succeeded in locating her as she had moved into another address with her sister. 2 weeks ago she moved into a rental property with the children. Prior to that my eldest son had been living with her mother about 50 kms away from her.
My wife sent me a text message unexpectedly about 3 weeks ago & organized for me to talk to the 9 y.o. son for the first time since she left.
I have now spoken to me on the phone 3 times since. He has mentioned to me that everyone in South Australia are trying to get him to forget about me & not have any contact with me, and he was upset about that.
My wife rang me 2 nights ago, and I was able to persuade
My wife rang me 2 nights ago, and I was able to persuade her to give me her new address & phone number, which I immediately gave to my solicitor and the Feds. They are expecting me to have the children in my care by Wednesday this week.
Last night after I spoke to my son, I spoke to my wife, and she told me that she had spoken to the police and told them that I had raped her. They asked her whether she wanted to press charges, but she told them that “she did not want to at this stage” (her words exactly). I knew that she was aware of the ‘Recovery Order’ because my solicitor had left messages on her mobile phone, her mothers mobile phone & her sisters mobile phone. She then told me that if I went ahead with the ‘Recovery Order’ or applied for custody, it would be war & she would press rape charges against me. We had had sex twice since she was diagnosed with the arthritis, the last time being approximately 6 months ago. Each time was with consent & each time she had an orgasm.

ok it seems as though your wife wants to be near her dealer get her into some sort of AA help and make her go through with it she can not keep those children away from you… the age thing doesn’t scare me as long as you are both over 18 the state or law can’t touch you regardless… just hang in there

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